I’d wake in the middle of the night to check my phone or spend hours in the bathroom flicking through my inbox — there would invariably be some attractive soul eager for a chat.I even managed a few desultory dates, but, after a few weeks, the thought of interacting with a woman offline lost its appeal. Each week, the top 20 most-viewed men on the site were listed in order of popularity.
The first flurry of ‘likes’ was flattering, and as the ‘pokes’ and ‘crushes’ began to flood in, I found myself frantically checking my inbox every few minutes to see who was making contact.— it felt far more gratifying than any of the dates I’d been on.I’m not sure whether it was the moody black-and-white photo, my brief but enigmatic profile or the fact that I loved small dogs that got me there, but knowing hundreds of women wanted to go out with me felt amazing.What’s most important to them is that they are still attractive enough to warrant attention.Why risk rejection in real life when they can acquire legions of virtual admirers in a click?As I rose through the ranks, I completely lost interest in making real connections.When I eventually hit the top spot — the most wanted man on the website!It gave such a boost to my self-esteem I no longer felt the need to go on dates at all — the hit of digital flirting was enough. Women would often open a dialogue during lunch breaks or before bedtime.Sometimes it would be a simple: ‘How’s your day going?Ego-boosting messages such as: ‘Hey, love the photo, tell me more about you . .’ gave me a tingle of excitement that kept me going back for more.Within days, these virtual validations had me hooked.