Even having two parents who hate each others' guts can demonstrate what NOT to do. But children of a single parent are left to gain that experience on their own.It's a lot like taking on a new job with no training: you learn the most in the field, but it's nice to have a heads up of what to expect. Growing up, my mom alternated between working two and three jobs at a time, getting a degree, and raising 3 boys on her own. She could've easily given up at any point but she stuck through it, and my brothers and I only have her to thank for not crumbling under the massive pressure.
Kevin, a single man with no children, says he has no problem dating women with children and has had various experiences.One woman kept him and her child separate because their “friends with benefits” situation didn’t call for that level of connection.Another wanted her child to call him “Daddy” after only four months of dating, so he had to fall back from that situation.Melanie, a divorced mother of two teenagers, says that she vets the guys she’s interested in pretty thoroughly early on.Even if he’s not at the “meet the kids” stage, she needs to know that when the time comes, she’ll be comfortable with the intro.In the last 30 years or so, we’ve seen a dramatic shift in how society views single, unmarried parents.While stigma and perceptions vary by cultural group, and changes in acceptance have occurred at different paces, it’s now commonly accepted that there are unmarried people who have children seeking love and companionship.If you're the child of a single parent and you aren't in the upper class, you're probably a "latchkey kid." That is, you spend a lot of your after-school time unsupervised while your parent is working.You learn to cook, take care of your things, and otherwise fend for yourself.That's not to say that children of single parents are helpless; we just have to learn some things on our own, and overall, we value different qualities in our partner. In growing up with a strong mother, I greatly admire that trait in others.It shows character and lets you know the other person isn't just going to give up when things get tough. We're more independent, so give us room to breathe.