Don’t you realize this is the prelude to every mother-in-law joke there is?
If a young woman can’t even date your son without being threatened, what is life going to be like when she marries him? A while back, Aaron Gouveia made some observations on The Good Men Project about “The Rules” that every father supposedly follows when a boy is dating his daughter.
And why are we automatically assuming that this girl (since the rules do not apply to homosexual relationships) needs or wants your teenage son’s money?
And be warned stereotypes: “We will make you go away.”Your thoughts?This has been weighing on my mind, so I thought I would ‘share’ my thoughts on the subject, along with my “rules” for dating my son or daughter.Since my son is closer to the age when he will be dating than my daughter is, I will address the, “10 Rules for Dating my Son”, meme in particular. What teenager (I’m assuming that is the age we are referring to) is anyone’s ATM?My boys are every bit as precious and awesome and wonderful as your little princess, Mr. Matter of fact, they are so amazing, I think we need to set a few ground rules for dating my son!Let’s just get this out of the way first: Yes, I’ve been noticeably absent for several months. Also, since I have sons, I shall refer to that particular meme. It assumes that (a) my son isn’t capable of making his own decisions or standing up for himself, (b) because he’s a man, he will be unable to resist a woman who dresses “like a stripper” and sends sexts, regardless of any of her other traits — good or bad — and (c) I’m responsible for him and his happiness for the rest of his life.I’m sorry, but I do not understand what, “looking like a stripper”, means in this context. “#6 – He’s a ‘Mama’s boy.’ Unless you have a ring on your finger, your opinion does not matter.” Because we all know that women are only valuable when they are playing a supporting role to a male.The meme continues with more insinuated threats of violence towards the prospective girlfriend. Thanks for feeding that stereotype – greatly appreciated. “#7 – You are not in charge of him and it’s not up to you to change him. “#9 – I know how to avoid jail.” Obviously not, since you’re putting all of this shit in writing.I do not understand why this would be the first (and by assumption, most important) “rule” for dating your son. Clear high heels, a lime green thong, and some pasties, perhaps?“#2 – If you show up at my house looking like a stripper, I will make you go away.” What. Or do you mean “looking like a stripper” while she’s at school, maybe doing clinicals in her scrubs while getting her nursing degree?Or are you insinuating that a woman using her sexuality is shameful?Or that we should determine a person’s value based on their clothing?