Yonden Lhatoo is the Chief News Editor at the South China Morning Post.He is a former television news anchor and veteran broadcast journalist." data-title="Yonden Lhatoo" data-html="true" data-template=" Too busy and too choosy for love – that’s us in Hong Kong.And everything around us, from the inescapable rat race to the gender imbalance, seems primed to facilitate a single lifestyle., like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah., we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
This is everywhere in the world, but I think it’s especially bad in Hong Kong.” And why do we have so many single women out there?
By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.
The scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.
’” — Kristen, 27The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.