Gone are the days when girls would strut in front of a man’s family, serve chai, and share a special talent to impress her possible in-laws.Professional matchmakers and house visits still exist, but the internet has made it easier for men, women, and (of course) their parents to cast a wide net and connect with people from all over the country who share their values and interests. _r=2&oref=slogin&oref=slogin On September 19, 2006 The New York Times reported, “So here’s the thing about speed dating for Muslims.Many American Muslims — or at least those bent on maintaining certain conservative traditions — equate anything labeled ‘dating’ with hellfire, no matter how short a time is involved.There’s also the alternative track: a “love marriage,” in which two people meet, fall in love, and marry without any assistance or interference from their families.This is what the average American would expect out of marriage. So after reading a mediocre review in , I gave Millanus a shot.Μάθετε περισσότερα, μεταξύ άλλων για τις διαθέσιμες δυνατότητες: Πολιτική για τα cookies.
If a male voice ever called the house, my parents would pick up the phone in the middle of the conversation (I could hear the click).Millanus bills itself as a “premier professional matrimonial service.” Its motto: “Muslims marry Muslims.” For a fee of 0, I could talk one-on-one with eligible Muslim men for five minutes each. While I respect the need to find companionship at any stage of life, the gender and age imbalance of the event meant that there would be no groupings by age—everyone would talk to everyone.In that time, I’d have to extract enough information about them to determine if they had husband potential. With two or three physically attractive, well-dressed exceptions, these guys just weren’t my type. One or two walked out before the evening’s activities had begun. I sat in my traditional clothes and looked up at my parents, my face burning red with embarrassment.Για να εξατομικεύουμε περιεχόμενο, καθώς και για να προσαρμόζουμε τις διαφημίσεις και να μετράμε την απόδοσή τους αλλά και για να παρέχουμε μια ασφαλέστερη εμπειρία, χρησιμοποιούμε cookies.Αν κάνετε κλικ ή μεταβείτε στον ιστότοπο, συμφωνείτε ότι μπορούμε να συλλέγουμε πληροφορίες μέσω των cookies τόσο στο Facebook όσο και έξω από αυτό.A businesswoman sitting next to me interrogated each and every male with the same battery of questions: “What are the most important qualities in a partner? What qualities do you find attractive and unattractive?” I watched as man after man squirmed under her scrutiny.She also informed us that a camera crew from Lisa Ling’s , a show on the OWN network, would be filming the event for an upcoming episode. To break the ice, we separated into small groups to discuss a few open-ended prompts like “A man’s job is to bring in the dough. Then you graduate college and your mom says, “Why aren’t you married yet?” When I ask my mom to resolve that contradiction, she says stuff like “Allah knows best” and “It is already written.” When I snarkily retort that I should rest and live my life until it happens, my mom insists that I need to put in the work.Currently this means subscribing to sites like Single Muslim.com, attending mixers, or fielding e-mails from different aunties in the community with photos and “biodata” of their suggestions.Usually, I forward out the potential suitors to my four closest friends— collectively known as “The Committee for the Arranged Marriage of Sadia Latifi (CAMSL)”—to weigh in on the selection.