Recently, Bustle asked women their thoughts on receiving oral sex, and their answers stretched all the way across the spectrum, from passionate love to disinterest and disdain. )..told me he just doesn't enjoy it that much, he said it was the same with his ex-girlfriends, too...This time around, we asked 16 women how they feel about giving oral sex — and why. I'm happy that he enjoys intercourse, but without head on the table, it definitely can make sex seem stale.I also think I like it because, honestly, I've been told by multiple partners that I'm good at it.
When my now-husband and I were dating in college, I’d give him blowjobs almost every night of the week. I still love him, obvs, but I just don’t have a taste — no pun intended — for it anymore.I think it dawned on me sometime in my 20s how much entitlement there is in our culture regarding male-centric sexual pleasure generally, and blowjobs specifically— and how many times in my life I've personally given head because I felt like it was what I was supposed to do, not because it was what I particularly wanted to do.And needless to say, in most of the situations where I felt that way, I wasn't really enjoying the sex that much.I don’t know what happened (maybe I gave too many back then?), but now he gets one maybe once every six months, if he’s lucky, and I have to be drunk.That said, I have a sensitive gag reflex and a jaw that tends to cramp up, so I usually can't entirely finish him off.Still, it's fun to get him pretty close before climbing on top of him.I mean, there's only so many ways [you can have sex.]I would be happy to do it if it's someone I am in love with; would adore doing it. Having sex and having oral sex are a bit different. Oral sex, which for me means going down on my boyfriend who has a penis, is something I do because it turns him on.There's no intrinsic fun in it for me, except that I love him and I want to make him feel good, you know?I love it when I can tell my partner, male or female, is enjoying it.If I can't tell, I get nervous and flustered and feel sexually inadequate.