Step 4 Avoid making alcohol a central part of your social events or regular life.
This shouldn't be difficult since you're not a drinker yourself.
Its different for each person, and until you go thru it, you cannot begin to comprehend.
Does it mean you don't have compassion or listening skills? the 4 year mark is a turning point in most recovery... I don't foresee social outings involving alcohol being an issue, because like i said, I couldn't care less about drinking so it actually works for me.
I'm kind of a private person myself, and I don't want to offend him or seem like I'm prying.
Over time, a recovered alcoholic should be able to cope more effectively with his illness, but during times of stress or significant life changes his desire to drink may intensify. Share with him your views and experiences with alcoholism.
I don't know what that entails, and how it's going to effect the relationship.
In casual conversation, he's mentioned things to me about his AA friends - saying that alcoholics are generally "unreliable people" and very "selfish." I couldn't help but wonder to myself - does that mean these traits apply to him as well?
If she has a stressful or bad day, engage in an activity that has stress-reducing qualities such as going for a walk or attending a support meeting. For instance, some alcoholics can eat at a restaurant that serves alcohol, but the same restaurant can be a significant trigger for a more severe alcoholic.
Depending on the person, sometimes giving them their space is what they need. Step 6 Avoid focusing your entire relationships with him on his alcoholism. Regardless of all of this, find a trusted person to talk to outside of the relationship if you have concerns or stresses related to the alcoholism.