They even have sex more often and, apparently, have more orgasms during sex.
But physical attractiveness matters most in the absence of social interaction.
But more important than sociodemographics is similarity of values – everything from musical tastes to political orientation.
We’re all motivated to think that our views of the world are right and when someone disagrees with us, we feel uncomfortable in their presence.
About a half of romantic relationships are formed between people who live relatively near each other and the greater the geographical distance between two people, the less likely they are to get together.
Of course, online dating and dating apps have changed where we meet our future partners.
It turns out that both women and men value traits such as kindness, warmth, a good sense of humour, and understanding in a potential partner – in other words, we prefer people we perceive as nice.
Chat-up lines may sound like a bit of fun, but all romantic relationships are built on reciprocal self-disclosure – the mutual exchange of intimate information with a partner.
Deciding when and how to disclose intimate information to a new partner is an important part of every romantic relationship and can be the difference between an honest, healthy relationship or a closed, stunted one. Giving the impression of dislike is unlikely to spark attraction because it goes against the grain of reciprocity.
People in romantic relationships, particularly new relationships, are biased in how they perceive their partners.
They view their partners as more attractive than objective reality – something I’ve called the “love-is-blind bias”. This idea of reciprocity may sound very simple, but it has incredibly important implications for all relationships.