Another point that Blanks made in his argument for interracial relationships was that the typical eligible and successful Black man he is a commodity and will use this to their advantage with women.
“Black men being in short supply means they can dictate the terms of the relationship and they often dictate terms that are not to the woman’s liking.” Let me get this right: one of the reasons why successful Black women should pursue relationships with successful White men is because a successful White man is more likely to create a relationship of “equals” with a Black woman than a Black man because successful White men want nothing more than to be in a relationship with a woman who is his equal?
” In his 2011 book “Ralph Richard Blanks, a law professor at Stanford University, states that one of the answers to the Black marriage crisis is for the mass of Steve Harvey advice-loving middle-class educated Black women to marry White men.
Blanks (who by the way is married to a Black woman with multiple college degrees) continues “More than half of married black women who have graduated from college have a less-educated husband who did not.
They marry down but not out.” Yes, the rules in the dating market have changed for Black people over the past several decades, but they’ve shifted for everyone.
But to say that the answer for Black women desperately seeking wedlock is to marry a White man is unrealistic and overly simplistic.
Many things can be explained through facts and figures, but I doubt that the myriad of difficulties that can exist in love and marriage can’t be solved by social theory.
There is an alchemy present in our emotional lives that is too fluid to ever be constrained by statistical data.
It’s when one of our own joins rank with the establishment that we’ve got to really ask ourselves “What the hell is going on?It seems that Black women have bought into this sensationalistic message, paving the way for a small army of (allegedly) well-intentioned Black men peddling relationship advice to Black women to become wildly successful (and wealthy) all for teaching us how to think more like them while acting like us.Forgive me for saying this, but I have a hard time stomaching this trend.Yet despite the shortage of black male peers, black women do not marry men of other races.Black women marry across class lines, but not race lines.But as far as I’m concerned, Blanks has somehow found a way to market positive eugenics as a rational solution to the decrease in the rate of Black marriages.Fear and race mongering are hardly the foundation of a credible solution in matters of the heart.It’s also an awesome list for the single girls and gents who are contemplating relocation. I’m working with the folks at Interracial to create some sort of info graphic or interactive map because we both just love you guys to pieces. Look at the list and feel free to confirm, deny, vehemently debate, agree, disagree, or add your city, county, state or township along with a reason or two why it’s a good place for us to plant some roots.For some reason, mainstream media has developed an obsession with Black women and our seemingly tragic lack of opportunites to jump the broom.However, I doubt this is because White men are easier to control then their Black counterparts.Maybe these marriages fare better because many who are willing to cross the color line have a mindset that is more flexible and open minded, qualities that are essential to the success of a long-term union?